I haven't blogged lately, but have a definite feeling the overwhelming task of blogging absolutely everything that's been happening in our lives. So, I've hit the brick wall! It's not a matter of having anything to say. It's all I want to say and filling-up a huge post. Too much to read and see.
|Kiely is top right|
|Lounge area of the Dorm. Steve is in front, me on the bright blue bag and the rest of the hoodlums.|
|I got this countdown everyday! Today's the Day! Snow College Bell Tower|
I know graduation was going to be a long production, but I loved every minute of it. Especially when they walked across the podium area. I'm glad she took that "rite of passage" and even though it's community college, it was a lot of learning and signifies that both of them are committed to learning and reaching their goals. I'm sure to Kiely and Matt there time in school is taking forever. To me, it's going fast. Maybe because I'm older, but also because I see it as a great place to be. The job of hunting for employment isn't really good right now so this is truly the place to be.
|Matt has his hand on Kiely's shoulder|
|Kiely receiving her diploma, finally!|
|Such a small school, she personally knows the Dean|
I know that in life there are "bumps" in the road. I'm not even saying that our honorary couple have any bumps or complaints. They have trials. I don't know a student ever that hasn't had some trials at college, but it only makes them grow. I'm talking about trials with teachers not teaching correct principles or huge tests that can make or break your standings with your grades. Or the fires the students start in the dorms. They did have two this year and it was an "easy code" with Kiely knowing evacuation, calling the fire department, and calming the students. They're "Pros" but the unknowing part when another fire will come was a bit unsettling.
|Matt and Kiely's home this past semester.|
First thing we made sure if any of my daughters wanted to attend college? My son just wanted to be a fireman and he knew that route, but applied these steps, but they were a little different. That one goal is really important because it has to be something they wanted really bad.
We all started-out making sure that our children had the right "attitude" and this is a huge part of being connected because no one wants to be around anyone else that is whining, sluggish, or complaining. My kids sometimes didn't even want to go to school and we'd get in the car and (I know this is bad) I'd hand them a can of Mountain Dew with a handmade sticker attached to it saying, "PEP" and they knew from me... that it stood for "Positive Energy Power." If there's anything that catches an adult, teacher, leader, or administrator..it's a kid that "out there" giving themselves assignments and staying busy and finding things that need to be done before they could think to ask someone to do them. I can't emphasize this enough, even if it's just sweeping, keep busy and a "self-starter".
The next thing is to find any and all scholarships and do this early. I don't think that the looking should begin in the Junior year of high school. Do it before. That FASFA site misses a lot...not sure if that's the right acronym for it. The funds are everywhere, really!
Don't wait to be in high school to start community service. Start them as soon as you can get them out and helping. Walking for causes, making your community beautiful, collecting food for the needy are some of the different ways even little ones can accomplish. Read your local news and online maybe too late. I only say that because often there's great opportunities to do service and they're always listed in the newspaper. You will be in the news if you honestly commit to helping others. The most important part of doing the community service is document everything and add a paragraph about how you felt doing something to help and I hope it isn't negative, because that will work against you and if you do gripe about it, in my book it doesn't count.
Lastly, it's just simple, do your homework and get good grades. Oh, if you only knew that if you don't "get it" go to You Tube and learn it. There's always a way. Some of my children weren't getting the help in high school that they wanted so they all went to college early. There's two advantages here because if you have a disability for instance like dyslexia, anyone enrolled can be tested and receive help. The college contacts the high school and they're required by law to get a tutor or extra help required for any and all courses taken at the high school and college. I promise, that's a wonderful service and again, it's free. High school-age persons get in FREE to college and the credit counts toward your college units. Sometimes easy classes can be taken just to bring-up a grade-point average even in high school. The transcript is just required to be taken to the high school. Kiely was good at dance and always got an "A", and my Bree loved photography...easy "A". All this may take time, but it was worth it because it brought-up the grades and my children were fulfilling their passion. Kiely had a term for dance, "Dance-it-out" when things became overwhelming.
I know that much of our lives in this world consist of rewards and achievements. We set our sights on deadlines or goals and it inevitably each one has a little or big bump in it. I think if any person, me...anyone, doing any worthwhile goal or defining pursuit, there's always some little sharp piece of rock, maybe a boulder, or a seemly impassable stream, that holds us back. The sunshine in our lives has a dark cloud that passes by and cuts the lights from us. We know there's a sun behind it, shining.
That "knowing" is faith and hope. Do we know for sure the sun is behind the cloud? I'm not wiser now that my children are raised, but I do know that all, no matter what we try on this earth, we will find opposition in the work. There will be an end to it, a finale. The end of a play. Our life on earth does have a finale, but it's how we play-out the rest of our lives on earth and the hope is that we have "played it right." It's that part of doing well is what's the most important ingredient to living here.
There will be not gate to climb or hitting an electric-livestock fence in heaven. We'll come to the "Gates of Heaven" and they will be there for all of us. If we keep our promises and live a worthy life.
We will all have a chance to have that celebration of "making it" if we do our part. This graduation for me watching Kiely and Matt was truly a bit of heaven and I did feel the "sun" without any clouds, not one.